and the boyfriend...?

there really aren't any mental strategies that you can use when it comes to this topic. i have the same problem with my fiancee. he looks at and i am really opposed to it because it makes me feel inadequate. all i can tell you is to talk to him about how this makes you feel. if he loves you then he'll respect your thoughts on this topic and do something about it. meaning, he'll stop doing it, or keep it to a minimum so you don't feel bad. in my case my fiancee is keeping it to a minimum. or so he says. good luck!